I wanted to stay up and get this written out before it didn’t seem to be too much of an issue for me. I’m currently watching Man in the High Castle, feeling slightly poorly, and I should definitely already be asleep for work tomorrow.
Anyway, earlier this evening (it’s Sunday, goodness knows when this will go live), I saw a couple of tweets that truly irritated me. Berating fellow bloggers, yet again. I can’t really be bothered to go into detail about it because… well, you probably know the type of thing I’m talking about. I don’t really understand the reasoning behind it, but the funny thing is, I see posts from the same people praising girl bosses too – the irony.
I’m going to be completely frank here and say it’s petty. It’s petty, and jealousy driven and bitter and in the words of Jenna from 13 Going on 30 – “You’re rude, and mean, and sloppy and fizzy, and I don’t like you at all.” Haha, no but seriously – I don’t see how this is ANY different to the awful content that Vogue editors have given the green light to in recent months?
Where is your positivity? What is it that you’re really, truly unhappy about? Over the course of the last few years, I’ve really learnt that you’re in charge of your own destiny. If you’re not where you want to be, you have yourself to blame for that – no one else, and to put other bloggers down for their successes because they have worked their arses off, quite frankly seems silly.
There are a few options for you to consider here, and I’d strongly consider doing the first one, regardless of whether this matters to you or not:
- FOCUS ON YOURSELF. It will make you so, so much happier.
- What will make YOUR blog better? And what are the steps you need to take to get there?
- Reframe your mindset, and turn every negative thought you have on it’s head – shit, that blogger has X bag, but how has she got to afford it? What can I do to do the same!?
- Going along the same vein, who are your favourite bloggers? Why? What can you take from their hardworking, girl boss, sassy work ethic?
I’ve started muting or purely just unfollowing people who spout bad spirited things about people, because I really just do not need that kind of negativity in my life. *sassy red dancing lady emoji*
I completely understand that it’s so easy to get caught up in the tide and compare yourself to everyone that works in this industry, but give it everything you have to offer, off your own back, and use your fellow bloggers’ as a guide to push you to improve and be just as amazing as they have grown to be.