Would you believe I've finally put the nursery tou Would you believe I've finally put the nursery tour on YouTube? Pop over to the link in my bio to watch it. ✨

I'm determined for today to be better than yesterday - it was SUCH a Tuesday but some good things did happen:
•i managed to get up to date with Casey's scrapbook after he went to sleep.
•we managed to do lots of the work school set for the day, with minimal tears (from me 🥲)
•the kitchen was left clean and a load of washing put into the machine ready to be taken out this morning. Such a mum thing to get excited about this last one 😂
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Prematurely dipped into summer yesterday because m Prematurely dipped into summer yesterday because my body temperature went haywire 📈 (and absolutely not Covid because we haven't entered any other buildings or been surrounded by other humans for weeks and weeks 😅) 
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my racoon jumper gets a thumbs up from me guys 👍🏼✨ 
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Casey's first time in snow - understandably he was Casey's first time in snow - understandably he wasn't bothered and Isla ran straight for the trampoline (I don't blame her tbh). We managed to coax her out of it for 2 mins to take this (on a potato apparently)! 🌨️❄️☃️
I took my nail polish off shortly after this - I t I took my nail polish off shortly after this - I think I'll be sticking to gel because chipped just isn't for me!
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New week which means new starts and I'm hoping it' New week which means new starts and I'm hoping it's better than the last! 

We can see a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel with this little cherub and Leap 4 - although he's having moment of grumblings (over the last week he's enjoyed screaming at bedtime), generally he seems a lot happier, thank god! 🤍
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I cannot wait til we remove this door frame and ge I cannot wait til we remove this door frame and get it all replastered, including the entrance behind me. I don't know whether the previous owners threw wet paper at the wall but it sure looks like it!
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Last night I found myself down a photo hole. I for Last night I found myself down a photo hole. I forgot just how many fun things we used to be able to do - this weekend we went away for Adam's birthday to @elmleynature. I've wanted to go back ever since but it's always booked up, and understandably so tbh! 

It was one of my favourite trips away and I went on a few in 2018. We watched a series on the laptop, drank tea, went on walks and just watched the landscape from the window, snuggled up in bed, because it was quite a cold November.

Simple pleasures but it was just what we needed. I live in hope we'll be allowed to do things like this again this year! 
#beforelockdown #lifebeforelockdown
This sweatshirt transported me straight back to th This sweatshirt transported me straight back to the A&F stockroom 😩😂

sweatshirt - @abercrombie via @asos jeans - 'farleigh' from @asos 
necklace (ad - pr product) - @muru_jewellery 
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MOTHERHOOD · 17th February 2019

Parenting Imposter Syndrome

It’s been a while…

and I’ve been wanting to write about this for quite some time but it’s hard to find the words when it’s such a weird feeling?

Most of you, if not all of you, know that I’m a mum. A mum to the most amazing 6 year old named Isla.

And for the most part, I’ve really been struggling to find my footing in this space – ‘the blogosphere’. Yes, I love clothes (seriously, shopping makes me so happy and I tell people this all the time) and of course I love my child too, but I really cannot find the balance on my channels – I feel too fashion focused, then too mum-orientated but it’s what I know… or so I think, sometimes.

 

 

 

Recently I’ve realised something though – I get really stressed about how other mums may perceive me. It’s such a confusing feeling and there are so many of these parenting events that I would like to go to, it’s just… what will they think?

 

My kid isn’t neurotypical – so they’re going to think she’s weird.
My kid is 6 and still in nappies – clearly I don’t try hard enough to get her out of them.
My kid only eats 3 different things – I must not have introduced her to new foods as much as I should have.
My kid doesn’t talk – how on earth do we communicate, etc. etc.

 

I’m worried about their perceptions of how I interact with her and how I parent, because clearly, everyone else is doing a much better job than I am. And it stretches through to my friends too – I’ve realised recently, that I do everything I can to avoid doing things with my friends AND Isla.

 

I’m terrified that they think I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing.
I’m terrified of something happening that I can’t do anything about.

 

I will join local parenting groups, I’ll join mum Instagram pages that run meet ups, but I’ll sit and watch from afar at the mums who have their shit together and can all completely relate to one another.

 

 


Parenting Imposter Syndrome
is what I call it.

And although I’m more than aware that every parent struggles with getting to grips with it all, the fear is so real and I can’t bear the worry of other people’s opinions about me and my child.

And yes, it stretches to ASD too – I’m sure I can find like minded parents who deal with exactly the same things as I do and I STILL will worry that I am doing it all completely wrong; that they will know everything there is to know on how to parent a child with ASD, and me on the other hand? Not a clue.

Is is shame? I don’t believe it is. I believe it’s more of a protective thing. I’m so proud of Isla and how far she’s come. It certainly is something I’m really worried about if we decided to have another child too.

I know this is just a barrage of words… it probably doesn’t make too much sense but it feels good to finally get it out of my head – that constant worry.

I guess there isn’t really an easy solution but to try and work through it, but God knows when I’ll find the courage to actually put that first foot forward, be brave and try and shift this worry.

In: MOTHERHOOD

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Would you believe I've finally put the nursery tou Would you believe I've finally put the nursery tour on YouTube? Pop over to the link in my bio to watch it. ✨

I'm determined for today to be better than yesterday - it was SUCH a Tuesday but some good things did happen:
•i managed to get up to date with Casey's scrapbook after he went to sleep.
•we managed to do lots of the work school set for the day, with minimal tears (from me 🥲)
•the kitchen was left clean and a load of washing put into the machine ready to be taken out this morning. Such a mum thing to get excited about this last one 😂
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#mumstyleblogger #babynursery #babyboynursery #minimalnursery #caseyashermartin
Prematurely dipped into summer yesterday because m Prematurely dipped into summer yesterday because my body temperature went haywire 📈 (and absolutely not Covid because we haven't entered any other buildings or been surrounded by other humans for weeks and weeks 😅) 
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my racoon jumper gets a thumbs up from me guys 👍🏼✨ 
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#mumstyleblogger #zarakids #zarababy #caseyashermartin
Casey's first time in snow - understandably he was Casey's first time in snow - understandably he wasn't bothered and Isla ran straight for the trampoline (I don't blame her tbh). We managed to coax her out of it for 2 mins to take this (on a potato apparently)! 🌨️❄️☃️
I took my nail polish off shortly after this - I t I took my nail polish off shortly after this - I think I'll be sticking to gel because chipped just isn't for me!
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#momentsinmotherhood #motherhoodstyle #newmamastyle #petitejoys #documentyourdays #capturingmotherhood #ootd #outfitoftheday
#mumstyleblogger #styleinspo #newmumstyle #mumstyle #casualstyle #winterstyle #winterfashion #familyblogger #motherhood
New week which means new starts and I'm hoping it' New week which means new starts and I'm hoping it's better than the last! 

We can see a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel with this little cherub and Leap 4 - although he's having moment of grumblings (over the last week he's enjoyed screaming at bedtime), generally he seems a lot happier, thank god! 🤍
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#2ndbaby #babyno2 #4monthsold #babyboy #babystyle #familyblogger #motherhood #family #momentsinmotherhood #motherhoodstyle #newmama #petitejoys #documentyourdays #capturingmotherhood
#mumstyleblogger #caseyashermartin
I cannot wait til we remove this door frame and ge I cannot wait til we remove this door frame and get it all replastered, including the entrance behind me. I don't know whether the previous owners threw wet paper at the wall but it sure looks like it!
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#momentsinmotherhood #motherhoodstyle #newmamastyle #petitejoys #documentyourdays #capturingmotherhood #ootd #outfitoftheday
#mumstyleblogger #styleinspo #newmumstyle #mumstyle #casualstyle #winterstyle #winterfashion #familyblogger #motherhood #zarastyle #zaraloungewear
Last night I found myself down a photo hole. I for Last night I found myself down a photo hole. I forgot just how many fun things we used to be able to do - this weekend we went away for Adam's birthday to @elmleynature. I've wanted to go back ever since but it's always booked up, and understandably so tbh! 

It was one of my favourite trips away and I went on a few in 2018. We watched a series on the laptop, drank tea, went on walks and just watched the landscape from the window, snuggled up in bed, because it was quite a cold November.

Simple pleasures but it was just what we needed. I live in hope we'll be allowed to do things like this again this year! 
#beforelockdown #lifebeforelockdown
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